Assemble all your ingredients ahead of time, since you'll need to add them all at once.
Heat your skillet and add the coconut oil (if using), melting it. Then add the ground chicken or turkey.
Cook, stirring and chopping up occasionally, and add a bit of salt as you go (you'll salt more later as well).
Once the chicken is almost completely cooked, you may need to drain some of the liquid off into the sink.
Then add all the other ingredients. Start with the amounts here, but stir together and taste. You'll almost certainly need to add more of some things to balance it for your tastes--if it needs more umami, try more fish sauce. If more acidity, add more lime juice. More spice add more sriracha or some red pepper flakes. Etc.
Make sure it's fully cooked, then remove from the heat. Serve by itself, or as part of an Asian chicken bowl with rice, vegetables, scallions, avocado, and kewpie mayo!